Tuesday 26 January 2010

Spanish Culture - Daily Life in Spain

I am frequently asked by people thinking of moving to Spain what life in Spain is really like. This is not such a suprising question, really, as the only experience of Spanish culture that most people have is during their brief two week holidays in Spain. These, almost by definition, are usually spent in tourist destinations that have no more relevance to real life in Spain than the front at Blackpool does to normal life in the UK.

Of course, everyone's experience of permanent living in Spain is different and, to some extent it is almost impossible to adequately encapsulate the way of life in any all-encompassing way. This may seem odd but the truth is that there is little real connection between daily life in Spain lived within a rural, inland village and that encountered by those living on a high class, high density foreigner estate on the coast. The former tend to involve a 'full-on' integration into Spanish life whilst the latter can mean that no real integration is necessary or, indeed, ever really takes place.

Certainly, it not for me to make a qualitative judgment about the merits of the two extremes (rural life or foreigner coastal estate) as everything depends upon what you - the person moving to Spain - wants. In a way, I think that one of the great strengths of Spain is that foreigners can move to Spain and live in specific areas that are extremely user-friendly. This is certainly true of the Costa del Sol and the Costa Blanca where there are many estates largely composed of foreigners - some of which are overwhelmingly populated by German, Dutch or British people. Calpe (on the Costa Blanca), for example, evidently has more British people living there than Spaniards!

In effect, you can move to Spain and into an area that has an existing way of life that has little to do, in reality, with Spanish culture. Most of your neighbours may be British (or at least English speaking) and the local infrastructure will have developed to service foreigners. 'English' shops selling English goods (run by Britons) may be present and complemented by English speaking dentists, lawyers, bar owners, doctors and tradesman. Even the local native Spanish will probably speak sufficient English to service your needs. Needless to say, often a well developed English speaking social network will have developed providing a range of activities and clubs.

Meanwhile, these coastal estates have usually matured well and have all the services that you would expect in the UK. ADSL is normally available together with drinkable mains water (aqua potable), mains sewage, electricity and telephone landlines.

So, daily life in Spain in some coastal areas can, in many ways, be superficially similar to the UK - including the fact that you do not need to speak Spanish to live quite happily, long term, within this environment. Indeed, to all intents and purposes you can avoid Spanish culture in any meaningful sense - whilst enjoying a stunning climate, an al fresco life and one where the living costs are lower than that of the UK. The day to day life may be somewhat 'artificial' but it is one which is easily accessible if you do not want to be unduly challenged by moving into a linguistically different culture.

Of course, matters are different inland. Most foreigners who move to Spain, understandably, move to the coast. Accordingly, the 'infrastructure' for foreigners moving inland is far less well developed. An English speaking infrastructure is often barely present and the way of life markedly different. Certainly, learning Spanish is almost a pre-requisite together with a willingness to embrace Spanish culture wholeheartedly.

It is also true to say that in rural areas (outside of villages and towns) some of the basic services present everywhere in the UK can be distinctly lacking. Some rural properties can lack mains electricity, mains water and even landline telephone connections - let alone ADSL. Unfortunately, some of these places, for the forseeable furture, will also not receive an upgrade should they be missing these services.

Certainly, I am not, for one moment, suggesting that if you are thinking of moving to Spain that you should avoid inland areas. That would be absurd - but recognise that the move is likely to be far more committing than if you were moving onto a coastal estate. That said, any difficulties can be more than off-set by the rewards inherent in integrating properly into Spanish day to day life within a tight, nuclear culture that is fundamentally different (and arguably better) than that of the UK.

Of course, the decision of where to move to Spain is yours. However, recognise that exactly where you move - will define your daily life far more than it would in the UK. Move to a coastal estate and, by definition, your daily life will probably have little to do with Spain and the realities (for both good and bad) of Spanish culture. The demographics and lifestyle on most coastal estates quite simply have little, if anything, to do with 'normal' Spanish life. However, the reverse is true of inland areas. In terms of sheer life experience, the latter are likely to be more interesting (and fun!) albeit that that they can present greater challenges - day to day!

Nick Snelling lives permanently in Spain with his family and is a journalist and author of four books including 'How to Move Safely to Spain' (www.movetospain-safely.com). For more information about his books and articles see http://www.nicholassnelling.com

Monday 8 June 2009

Expats Living in Spain - Coping With Home Sickness!

Hi there,

You may even miss the cold drizzle on a Monday morning and
the warmth of a good curry on a Friday night. Home sickness
feelings don't usually last for too long and often only
strike when you're feeling low.

Having a good strategy in place to ward them off and deal
with them if they do strike will keep you from feeling blue.

Wisdom has it that there are three common stages of
homesickness:

1. Exaltation - Everything is so new, fresh and
exciting. You're living in what amounts to an entirely new
world and every day is an adventure. This is kind of like
the natural high that occurs to holidaymakers. It usually
lasts for several weeks, or even several months in certain
cases; but unlike the tourists, you're not going back home
after soaking in a few days' worth of cultural sightseeing.

2. Frustration - Every high has to end sometime and usually
it comes down with a bump. What am I doing here instead of
going back home where I belong? I miss my friends and
family. I miss wandering round my hometown and reading
the local paper.

3. Acceptance - Well, things aren't perfect here, but things
aren't perfect anywhere. By this stage you've learned to
settle in and accept this society and your role here as it
is. It begins to feel like home sometimes. You start to make
a few friends among the locals, learn the language a bit and
adapt to the customs and social norms.

Here are some tips to help speed up the process of becoming
a happy native:

Talk About It...

Don't think you're the only person feeling sad. Your
partner or neighbours may also get the blues occasionally
too. Sharing your feelings will help, and you may be able to
come up with ways to reduce them in the future.

Keep In Touch...

Having a good connection with old friends and family
enables you to keep informed about their lives and will also
remind you of what you've got now.

Phone - make sure you get a good international cheap call
supplier and call home as often as your friends and family
can put up with you.

Snail Mail - the post in Spain is even slower than in
Britain and can sometimes be quite erratic. Don't feel too
heart broken if you think everyone has missed your birthday
- the hundreds of cards may just be enroute or mislaid!

Email - an infinitely more sensible and potentially more
reliable solution to keeping in touch with friends and family.
You also reduce the risk of becoming a pest as your loved
ones can respond in their own time. This solution requires
either a mobile phone device with email capability or
Internet connection.

Blog - Keeping a "web log" (online journal) of your
adventures in your new home gives you an outlet to share
your experiences and also enables your family and friends to
check in on you to see how you're doing. There are many easy
and free ways to set up a blog including keeping a diary
(with the best one each year being published) at
www.nativespain.com

Find People Like You...

Get in touch with other expats through online forums or
social events. You can find other expats, chat and make
contact at http://www.nativespain.com

Think Positive...

Make a list of all the reasons you came to Spain in the
first place - make the list long and elaborate, with all the
reasons why you left your home country and all the reasons
why you chose Spain.

Really make an effort with this - include all your feelings
and thoughts, no matter how mad they might seem to someone
else. Then the next time you're feeling down, review your
list.

Get Involved in Your New Culture...

One of the fastest and most long lasting ways to beat the
homesickness blues is to make Murcia your home. Get involved
in the culture, the day-to-day living, the fun and fiestas.

Make friends in the ferretería and the fish shop. Gossip
with the gas man and girls in the sausage shop. It can be
tempting to only mix with other expats, especially if you're
living on a housing estate. This could be a mistake. Many
expats on the estates are only there sporadically, and
seeing them go "home" may make you feel worse. Ensure you get a
good grounding in the real Spain. Finally, if you're still
feeling unhappy, then you may need to make the decision to
return home. Don't feel bad about this - you wouldn't have
known if you didn't give it a go!

Debbie Jenkins is the co-author of "Going Native in Murcia"
and founder of http://www.NativeSpain.com a collaborative
online guide to spain written by expats for expats.

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Friday 8 May 2009

What You Should learn about living in Spain...





Spain is great when you are going there on holidays, but when you decide to pack up and go out there to live, you really have to think long and hard and find out as much information as possible, especially if you are taking children with you.

We left the UK in 2006 to go and live in Southern Spain, near
"The La Manga Club". We also uprooted our children.

It was like a big adventure....
When we got there, we knew that because we hadn't done our homework, we had to go forward and speak to Ex-Pats, and the best place to start was at the local school. While parents were waiting for their children to come out of school, we went across to talk to them and we were so glad we did as it saved us so much time and we soon found out where to go and what to do.

So my first recommendation is.. If you are thinking about going out to Spain to live with children, speak to other Ex-Pats ASAP. You will be so glad you did. You'll proberbly also get invited to their BBQ too....

Monday 9 February 2009

Is Spain as good as you think?


Hi, me again...

So you're fed up of trying to keep your head above water, you're in a dead end job and you feel like your life's going nowhere!
All you can think about is..
"Shall we pack up and go and live in Spain?"
It gets exciting the more you think and talk about it though doesn't it?

But stop and think of the bads things too! We didn't, and to be honest, i don't think it would have mattered as we were both in horrid jobs and we all just wanted to change! We also had a property to stay in and jobs to go to, or so we thought!
So going off with no money, or jobs or anywhere to stay would definately be the wrong way to go about it! So if you have all 3 before you go then you should be fine..
Also, don't forget now the £ isn't worth as much, its more expensive to buy things and go out for meals, etc.
But if you don't go to Spain, you'll always be wondering "what if...."

Saturday 17 January 2009

Spanish Life For ExPats

Hi Julie here,

If you're thinking on packing up and going to live in Spain, and especially if you have children you really need to read my story that i wrote about when me and my family went to live in Spain and some of the problems we came across...

I wish we could have had all this information before we left as it would have saved us a lot of money and heartache. But to be honest, i'm glad we went.
It was a big experience for us.

You really need to know the Spanish way of life, it is so different to us with the fact that, in Summer, they have a Siesta, (rest/sleep), from 2pm-4pm in the afternoon. All the shops shut at 2pm and open again at 5pm till about 11 pm. The Spanish take their children to restaurants at 11pm. It's because of the sleep in the afternoon, they're so alive at night.

Because we lived close by, we were allowed to drive through the barriers at:


La Manga Club Resort.

We had some great times there during the day and night. If you ever fancy going there, it really is a magical place, but very heavy on the pocket, so take plenty of cash with you.

To find out more about Moving and Living in Spain:

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Learn Spanish In Just 20 Minutes Each Day:

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Don't let me put you off. I'm just giving you a bit of helpful advice. Make sure you think about it carefully. You can loose a lot of money if it doesn't work out. We did! We're slowly getting back on our feet. But we've no regrets. Onwards and Upwards!

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